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you know how wedding invitations just have that look about them so you know exactly when you have one awaiting you in your mail even before you open it? well...i got one today and i couldn't figure out who the heck it would be from. i flipped it over and lo and behold...it's from chris and jen. uhh...wth?!? now i'm left to decide do i:
1. take the polite road and send the reply card back without comment but indicating that i will not be in attendance.
2. take the high road and spend some time making a nice card and write a little congratulatory note and send it along with my regrets.
3. take the honest road and write a letter asking who smoked what and made them think that after i made it quite clear i could never trust chris or be his friend again that i'd want to attend their wedding and that my head still reels from time to time when i think of the web of lies he weaved and that led to his pending nuptials.
Anonymous
August 7 2005, 11:56:00 UTC 6 years ago
daryl
hmmm...sounds like a tough one. i think if i were in the same situation that i likely would avoid the whole thing all together and not respond. have you addressed this by now?August 7 2005, 12:49:42 UTC 6 years ago
Re: daryl
i haven't addressed the issue at all; i've pretty much avoided it entirely. conny and vin seem to think i should make a card and be all nicey nice and that doing so would make me feel better - i seriously doubt it. quite honestly, your response was my first and is my continuing inclination.August 15 2005, 09:00:54 UTC 6 years ago
Re: daryl
oh man. even tho i know nothing about the sitch, sounds like they're living in la la land expecting you to come.i would respond back with a plain card.
"thank you for the invitation, but unfortunately I am unable to attend your special day due to other commitments.
all my best on your special day.
hugs and kisses,
your name here"
be all oozing sarcasm etc. but still very polite. then you can 'do the right thing" by RSVP-ing but still get your feelings across!
take care!
August 16 2005, 01:22:32 UTC 6 years ago
Re: daryl
so i came to a middle ground...it was polite and thoughtful, but rather devious. i made a card (a stylish little shaker kind) and i wrote in it that i wish them the best on their day and on their lives together and that i wish them much longevity and happiness. i also wished them the kind of love pablo neruda speaks of in Sonnet XVII and quoted a few lines from the sonnet. the deviousness is in the fact that i am virtually certain it was her idea to invite me just to remind me they are getting married and oh so happy and she'll read the lines and think they are nice (or so i'm thinking). i'm hoping he'll read the lines and remember that not so long before he proposed to her, he quoted the same sonnet to me saying it showed how much he loved me. it would be even funnier though if he'd already quoted that sonnet to her and she figures out he used it on both of us in reading the card. just a little part of me feels evil doing this, but it was as high of a road as i could take at this point. bad, bad laura!!!